I am 58 and I have a 13 year old.
It was 10 years ago when I had decided to shift from building my lifestyle home and furniture brand to figuring out my next thing. It was a fabulous business and one that I am very proud of and it taught me that I am a lot tougher and smarter than I had ever given myself credit for.
When that ended, I was figuring stuff out. I started a food blog in 2008 as a cathardic exercise to deal with my grief. Losing my dad and walking away from my biz -which I loved – was challenging. My blog quickly gained a captive audience. Being validated for building my own personal brand(s) and doing both successfully, others were reaching out for my advice. That free advice turned into paid advice and over the past 10 years +, I have helped countless female entrepreneurs, screen writers, designers, chefs, restaurant owners, artists, creatives and so many more, clarify, identify and craft their own unique voices and personal brands. The food blog, which had been dormant over the past 2 years due to cup being very full with work and life, recenlty morphed into a lifestyle platform. I love the creative outlet it provides and it has been successful and I have been mildly content.
But I have always had a burning desire to create in a bigger and badder way. That idea has been marinating for a long time and for me it was just a fantasy. Well – after a brief conversation about a year ago with a friend, that fantasy is turning into a reality. In our conversation, I had glossed over what I was wanting to do and then ended it with, “yeah..but I am now 57 and it might be too late”. As she stood on the 4th step of her staircase, looking over at me, she responded by saying, “it’s never too late”. Those 4 little words changed my entire mindset and in that moment I felt the shift.
A year later – what I had only been dreaming about is happening and it confirms that what we think – we manifest. What we say out loud, write down and believe is what we create. And before those 4 little words, I was the one sabotaging and stopping myself from creating what I wanted.
I don’t know about you, but did you read the Secret when it was trending or put pictures up on your bulletin board of crap that you wanted or vacations you only dreamed about taking? Make vision boards? Yeah…me too. But for some reason that shit was just pretty pictures on my cork board. The truth is – I wasn’t ready. When I got clear – so did my message. And because of that, as I create and carve out exactly what I have been wanting – I am showing others and my clients how to do the same. In creating a step by step method to achieve what you want – this blueprint works with anyone who is creating anything.
So if you think you are too old or too fat or whatever you are saying to yourself to prevent you from stepping into what you are truly meant to do and be – you are not any of it. It’s just not your time yet and when it is – hang tight – because it’s fun and exciting and when the light bulb gets turned on there will be no stopping you.
Just remember, Martha Stewart was in her early 50’s when she started her MS Omni Media Group, Vera Wang was close to 40 when she started designing clothes professionally, Ariana Huffington founded the Huffington Post at age 55, and Julia Child got her own cooking show at the age of 51.
So…age is just a number – it doesn’t define you.
This totally spoke to me this morning but I didn’t have time to comment until now. As a soon-to-be 45-year-old mother of a three-year-old, I vacillate between feeling young for my age (whatever that means) and too old to keep up with my kid, much less do anything important with the rest of my life. It’s just this last month that I’ve started contemplating what is next for me and I’m realizing that my life is really just beginning.
Hi Nicole!!! How are you! I think about you all the time and your sour dough bread starter and all the fun we had in Mexico!!! Your life IS just beginning and it can be designed, crafted and told in your own, unique way. Let’s catch up and chat. I would so love to hear about motherhood and everything in between!!! xxx
I love this! You inspire me! I know there is more and I have not yet raised the curtain for my 2nd Act.
You and your friendship inspires me! This 2nd act will be mind blowing – cannot wait to watch it unfold!! xx